Thursday, August 14, 2008

This Week SUCKS !!!

The last few days have been insane! Total Chaos! Tuesday morning, Nick and Jennifer began moving their stuff from their apartment into my house. In the midst of all their chaos and destruction, the main sewer drain backed up and my basement flooded! Since Roy was at work, we had to call in a plumber. While I was busy moving things around in the basement, Nick and Jennifer were trashing the rest of my house. They had to move most of my furniture out, to make room for their huge, king size bed. Some how, my stuff ended up everywhere; the kitchen, the garage, even in the drive way ! It was a total night mare. I had only gotten about 5 hours sleep the night before, and everyone kept asking me why I was so cranky. They're just lucky I didn't kill anyone.

Wednesday morning, I had to take Jacob and Heather to their appointments at the eye doctor. Before I could even get out of bed, Nick was in my face, freaking out because, he was out of pain pills! His jaw quit hurting about a week ago, but he's been too stoned to notice. He's been taking 5 pills at a time ! I knew that he'd be frantic when his supply ran out, and sure enough, he was. (I don't know what he expected me to do - If it was up to me, I wouldn't have let him have them to start with!) Any way, while I was gone, he managed to talk the doctor into giving him 20 more. His doctor told him to use them to wean him self off of them because, he would NOT get any more. I spent the rest of the day putting my house back together; cleaning the basement, finding places to store all my furniture that they moved out, and trying to prepare the kids to go back to school on Thursday. When I went to bed at midnight, Nick was taking the LAST of his pain pills. (20 pain pills in 16 hours!!)

This morning, I woke up early to get Heather and Jake off to school. Nick had taken Jennifer to work and kept her car so that he could look for a job. I have warned Jennifer NOT to let Nick drive her car because, his license is suspended - he's not supposed to be driving! But she either won't listen, she would do anything for Nick. Anyway, with the two of them gone, I was able to get the kids off to school without event and in peace.

The first day of school is just a half day and shortly after the kids got home, the phone started ringing. The first call was from Nick. It was obvious that he had been drinking. In fact, he was so loaded that he was calling me to ask where Jennifer was. I told him that she was at work. (he took her there, Duh !) His response was loud and unintelligible, then he hung up on me. Right away, I knew that he would be in jail before the day was over. The second call, was from Jennifer's mother. She needed Jennifer's work number because, she had been contacted by the Olathe police department that Nick had wrecked Jennifer's car, and then, taken off running from the police! As drunk as he was, I'm sure that he wasn't hard to catch. (Nick honestly believes that he is living an episode of Cops. And believe me, when he is drinking, he is every bit as stupid as the people that are on that show.) End result: Nick was being taken to Jail, and Jennifer's car was towed to a police impound lot, where it would cost her $117.oo to get it released. Then, things got really complicated.

I spent the next hour talking to policemen, and police dispatchers, Roy, Jennifer, and even Jasmin, trying to piece together what had happened. I still don't know for sure. Finally, I went to pick up Jennifer from work. Jennifer told me that Nick came to her work to have lunch with her. He was obviously drunk at that point, he also told her that he had taken two or three Zanax. ( I have no idea where he got those) Any way, He was blitzed, Rather than taking the keys from him, she told him to take a nap in the car, and she went back to work. Fifteen minutes later, he had forgotten what Jennifer had said, and where she had disappeared to. (that's when he called me looking for her) Shortly after that, Nick was pulled over for reckless driving, less than a block from her work. ( ironically, also, less than a block from the jail.) Nick took off running, and the police assumed that he had been in a wreck earlier that day because, the air bags were deployed. (the air bags were still deployed from Sunday, when he was drunk) So he was arrested and Charged with: DUI #3, reckless driving, driving on a suspended license, and fleeing and eluding a police officer.

Jennifer's mom paid to get her car released, and she sent her sister over to help her pack her stuff and take her home. It's midnight, and I still haven't heard from Nick. He did, however call my mother and talk her into bailing him out of Jail. ( he convinced her that they couldn't feed him in jail and that he was going to starve!) When she called me to tell me what she planned to do, I told her, "If you bail him out, you have to figure out what to do with him because, he's NOT coming home to my house!" When I told her what he had been up to lately, and explained that the jail will NOT let him starve, she changed her mind about bailing him out.

Okay, it's 12:23AM and Nick just called me. Of course, he's begging me to let him come home. He swears that he won't drink or do drugs, but he's out of control, he can't stop now, no matter how much he wants to. He's angry that his grandmother could have, and was willing to, bail him out until I spoke to her. I tried to explain that I still love him - I'll always love him, but he has to deal with the consequences of his choices. Besides, he isn't going to "get off" on this, he's going to have to serve the time anyway - he might as well start now, and get it over with. I know that it sucks to be in jail with a broken jaw, and his mouth wired shut, but that was his doing too. He kept accusing me of "giving up on him" and I'm not. He just doesn't understand right now.
Oh, Fabulous ! Nick just called,again to tell me that if I am unwilling to bail him out, he will never speak to me again. That I can consider him my "dead" son.
Oh ,the drama . . .

1 howled back:

SPARSELY KATE said...

oh man, big hugs...

my kids tell me they hate me all the time but us mums know it's just all hot air and manipulation.

he'll see you are actually being on his side, one day ONE DAY when he sobers up and can reflect with clear-eye goggles on.

take care of you and try and find a bit of peace and happiness in there somewhere...

love me